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Mentorship
one to one bespoke guidance for women and men
I am here to guide you in embodied living and deeper relating to self, other, and the world around you. I am passionate for you living your life flourishingly, rooted in your unique being, body and beauty.
Through mindful somatic psychotherapy, sexology, and relational mentoring, I support you in the connection to your body, uncovering what truly inspires you, what you long for, and living that in relationship to self and others.
Mentorship is for those ready to relate deeper to themselves, the challenges they face, feel deeply, embracing the innate wisdom of their body, and relate to all Life brings. This work is oriented towards bringing compassion, sensitivity, transformation, cultivating conscious presence and love to all aspects of ourselves and those we relate with by applying embodiment practices, finding depth in meaning, and expressing ourselves truthfully so that we can flourish and embody love in this life.
"The minute I heard my first love story,
I started looking for you,
not knowing how blind that was.
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.
They’re in each other all along."
- rumi
Mentorship
For him
for devoted men seeking to embody more of their masculine essence and create deeper intimacy with their woman through...
The Art of Presence
Learning how to root into stillness and awareness so you can meet yourself, your work, your woman—with grounded presence.
Leading Through Tension, Not Avoiding It
Cultivating the inner strength to stay with discomfort, speak truthfully, and hold tension lovingly instead of collapsing into avoidance or appeasement during moments of intensity.
Unhooking the Patterns
Understanding and transforming the patterns you encounter in life, love and relating, so you can bring clarity, leadership, and truth to the moment.
Embodying the Masculine Pole
Claiming your role in polarity by anchoring into direction, containment, and devotion, allowing your partner to soften, relax and feel safe.
Reclaiming Sexual Leadership
Deepening your capacity to initiate, hold, and lead sexually from a place of integrity and connection—not performance or pressure.
Attuning to Her Feminine Heart
Learning to read, honor, and respond to your woman’s emotional, erotic and energetic expression—not as problems to fix, but as invitations to deepen love.
Relating From Depth, Not Reactivity
Developing emotional maturity and somatic awareness of yourself so you can stay open and connected in all aspects of living, leading and loving as a man.
Living and Relating as Devotion, Not Obligation
Shifting from 'doing enough' to living in alignment with your deepest values and on purpose—where your leadership becomes a gift, not a task.
For her
for loving women both strong and sensitive, longing to deepen in living, loving and relating, while standing rooted in their own wisdom and feminine essence through...
Resting Into the Feminine
Without Losing Your Power
Reclaiming softness, receptivity, relaxation and feeling—not as weakness, but as profound strength that flows from being deeply anchored in yourself.
Being Seen Without Performing
Letting go of strategies to be chosen or validated, and allowing yourself to be truly met as you are—raw, radiant, and real—in life, love and relationship.
Healing the Relational Wounds
Gently tending to the places in you that have been hurt, betrayed, or unseen—so your heart can open again without self-abandonment.
Inviting Love, Not Chasing It
Embodying the magnetic feminine that calls in devotion through radiance, depth, and embodiment—rather than effort or over-giving.
Honoring Your Inner Spine
Cultivating your own inner clarity, boundaries, and self-leadership that allow you to flow, to relax and feel safe within.
Expressing From Fullness, Not Fear
Learning to voice your needs, desires, and emotions in ways that bring you closer to love, not further from it.
Becoming the Love You Long For
Letting your longing guide you deeper into yourself—so that the love you offer is not a request to be filled, but a natural overflowing.
Living your Radiance, in Wholesome Worthiness
Rooting into your inherent beauty, sensuality, and wholeness—because you remember you are worthy of living, of loving. Simply because you exist.
WHAT OTHER WOMEN SAY
“Tessa is a warm person who listens really well. She had a loving way of questioning me directly with the harder questions and I think she dares to ask through the uncomfortable really well. I got so many insights in the coaching trajectory that I did with her”
— Noortje, 4-month mentorship, Netherlands
In mentorship...
We may redefine...
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the relationship to self, other, partner and environment
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the relationship to the wisdom of your body
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the relationship to feelings and somatics
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the relationship to habit and ritual
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the relationship to mind, thoughts, emotions and patterns
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the relationship to purpose, gifts and success.
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the relationship to your worth, belonging and uniqueness
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the relationship to pain, symptoms and dis-ease.
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the relationship to obstacles, challenges, defeat, heartbreak, loss, grief and despair
I support and guide with...
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empowerment, resilience, self-trust
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grief counseling, heartbreak, love, loss
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sensitivity, overwhelm, nervous system wisdom
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relationships of all kind
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self-awareness, consciousness, presence
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intimacy, connection, embodiment
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sexuality, desire, pleasure
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polarity, erotic friction, attraction
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body image, beauty, radiance
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mindful somatic psychotherapy (hakomi method)
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facing life challenge, pain, trepidation
My approach.
I work with the influence and latest developments in mindful somatic psychotherapy, modern coaching, quantum physics, epigenetics, and new human sciences combined with ancient traditions of healing, health and wisdom rooted in yogic science, ayurveda, classical tantra and Buddhism.
I am trained as a somatic therapist and somatic relational coach and sexuologist, in a trauma-sensitive way. I hold an MSc in Social Sciences and Anthropology and am trained in the Somatica method by the Somatica Instute for sex and relationship, registered with ASIS as a somatic sexologist. I extensively work with the framework of the stages of relating, yogic intimacy and devotional love through the work of David Deida.
I work with tools that involve integrative and embodiment practice, breath and energy awareness, somatics, emotional release techniques, talk modalities and more.
My approach is based on the belief that as humans we are whole and complete, that we thrive when we feel meaning in our lives, when we relate to self and other wholesomely and are connected to beauty in the greater sense. By embracing and facing all we may be presented with in Life, we return back to who we truly are and grow on our path in life.
I welcome the hearts that ache for realness. Those who have loved with everything and still wonder if they’re too much, or not enough. I sit beside those who fumble forward with open hearts, still longing to be met. Those who feel with their whole bodies and speak with their silences. I walk with the ones who have been hurt through love, yet dare to love again and again.
Who breathe through the ache and let their longing make them more alive, not less. Who carry poetry in their blood and carry ancient wisdom in their wounds. I guide the fierce lovers—the ones who break their own hearts just by staying true.
Thoxd who long to be held without shrinking. Those who want to lead without losing softness. The souls who sense there’s more to love and life than what they’ve been shown.
This work is a homecoming, and a homage to the heart of relating.
A gentle gathering of the scattered parts.
A path back to wholeness, not perfection.
To love, not to performance.
To intimacy that begins within—
rippling outward as truth, as beauty, as love embodied.
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